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Deciding What’s Best for Your Elderly Parents

This is one reality sons and daughters should prepare for and decide among themselves before that time comes – what Aged Care Services is best for the aging parents? The time will come that eventually we become parents to our parents and the commitment to care for aging parents may take a short time or it may last for several years.

The quick urge is often for us to just adopt them into our own homes, which comes naturally, but how prepared is one on this? Perhaps a rundown of some factors to consider would help us reach that decision with ourselves, our siblings and our own families.

Parents’ Health

If the parent has some sickness that needs immediate and regular attention, is care available in the household? Is the house accessible to hospitals or health centers in case that sickness attacks any time?

Dealing with aging parents requires that we fully understand some of the changes – physiological, emotional, mental and spiritual – that are taking place in their lives. Their energy levels have also decreased thus they need assistance more than ever.

Your Own Health

Are you healthy and strong enough to provide aged care? Elderly parents have special needs and often, occasional help becomes not just a regular thing but obligatory.

Juggling the demands of current tasks and these new responsibilities may threaten your health. This can also be stressful and may leave you burnt out.

Your Own Family

If you are married, is your spouse prepared to share the new responsibility with you? Do your kids welcome the idea of having the grandparents around? When deciding to adopt aging parents, it should be something everyone agrees with so that everybody shares in the responsibilities.

Deciding to care for your aging parents can put a strain in your marital relationship if this new responsibility is not thoroughly discussed with your spouse.

Your Financial Resources

Would a nursing home be a more practical choice in the long run? Just the same, in your own home, cooking additional food (sometimes on a special diet), cleaning, medications, showering, and the additional expense can be more than some households can deal with.

After knowing the factors, find time to discuss these with your family and aging parents. Do not procrastinate. The sooner issues are discussed, the more time there is for understanding and reflections.

Be sensitive when discussing the issue to your aging parents. It is also best not to overwhelm them so that you also will not stress them with too much information. Often, discussions like this acknowledge their mortality and it can be depressing.

Care-giving to aging parents involves challenging decisions which should be handled with as much thought and discussion as possible. Avoid jumping to drastic decisions just because you feel guilty or as a quick fix. Assess your own abilities and limitations, as well as those of your family members. Be realistic while being practical. In the end, what matters is the health and convenience of both you and your parents.